Building Bridges: The Heart of Relationships 


As we advance in our “Men Under Construction”  series, we’re reminded of the words from Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV):

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Even if you have every other area we’ve talked about locked down (Mental, Physical, Spiritual) If you’re lacking in the relationships department your potential will be limited and eventually you will crumble.

At the core of all success lies effective communication and the cultivation of genuine relationships.

We’ve kept the topic of relationships for the grand finale, and there’s a reason for it. Navigating relationships can often feel like climbing the highest mountain or crossing the deepest ocean. But fear not! We’re here to help you chart the course, equip you with the right tools, and make the journey worth every step. Let’s embark on this adventure together

The Blueprint for Authentic Connection

Relationships go beyond mere connections. They form the very essence of our lives. They provide us with meaning, depth, and richness. The good news is that Just like we can train our mental and physical abilities, we can also train our ability to authentically connect. 

The Pillars of Strong Relationships

Communication: The cornerstone of any relationship. It’s not just about speaking but listening with intent, understanding, and empathy.

Trust: Built over time and through consistent actions. It’s the foundation upon which all relationships stand. (Stay tuned for an in-depth dive into trust later)

Respect: Recognizing the value in others and treating them with the dignity they deserve. Understanding: Taking the time to see things from another’s perspective, and to walk in their shoes.

Loving God: Recognizing that our ability to love apart from him is imperfect and following his love as an example.

Without these pillars, a relationship is like a house built on sand, unstable and easily swept away by life’s unpredictable tides. Start by making sure these pillars are in place, then proceed to exercise these muscle groups for peak performance.

Relationship Muscle Groups

Building and maintaining relationships requires continuous effort, like training specific muscles for peak performance. Here are some of the ‘relationship muscle groups’ we must exercise: 

Active Listening – Empathy – Boundary Setting – Conflict Resolution – Commitment.

But how does one actually exercise these muscles? The key principle is that it requires being intentional. Do research, and put your findings into practice.

For starters, Here’s a video from Dr. John Gotman on how to strengthen your ability to build trust. Throughout his extensive research, he’s become able to predict the success or failure of a relationship with 91% Accuracy in the first 10 minutes of meeting a couple.

Reflect on your relationships and rate yourself out of 10 in the following areas:

  1. I engage with colleagues and peers collaboratively, valuing diverse perspectives and ideas.
  2. I prioritize open dialogue and honesty in both my professional and personal interactions.
  3. In friendships, I ensure mutual understanding by checking in and making time for meaningful conversations.
  4. I seek feedback constructively and use it for self-improvement in work and interpersonal dynamics.
  5. Regardless of the setting, I strive to be approachable and receptive, fostering an environment of trust and respect.

Remember, self-awareness is the first step to growth. Identifying areas of improvement allows us to take actionable steps toward building stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

In the grand tapestry of life, relationships are the vibrant threads that add color, texture, and meaning. As we strive to become better men, let’s remember that our relationships are a reflection of our inner being – Let’s commit to nurturing them with the same dedication and intentionality we apply to other areas of our lives.

Here’s to Building Better Men

Brandon Bell

Blueprint For Men

Communications Director –

Breaking the Mold: Joe’s Journey from Mundane to Magnificent with Blueprint for Men

Joe was an average guy. His marriage was average. His career was average. His life was average. But Joe was tired of average. he felt lonely and cold inside. When Joe signed up to go to Blueprint for Men’s Fall event, he had no idea that his life was about to go from average to extraordinary…

“What am I getting myself into?”

  • Maybe you’re not as alone as you thought
  • Maybe you’re not defined by your failures
  • Maybe God is closer than you think.

Joe’s story is a testament to the power of genuine connection and the unwavering love of God.

If you’re on the fence about coming to s retreat this fall, this podcast is for you.

The fall men’s retreat season is upon us and we have two outstanding Men Under Construction retreats for you to choose from. Click on the links below to find out complete details and get registered. Bring a friend!

October 6-8 @ Cohutta Springs, Georgia


October 27-29 @ Indian Creek, Tennessee


Making Friends As a Lone Wolf – Toolbox – Art of Charm

It is an unfortunate statistic that we lose friends as we get older, but why does that happen, what can you do to make and maintain friendships that last a lifetime, what are the 3 traits you need to be the friend everyone wants, and proven system can you implement tomorrow to attract dynamic high value people into your life?

The great tragedy of male relationships is that we were never taught how to make friends.

Check out the podcast here.


Unlock the Power of Emotional Intelligence:

Ever wondered why some people excel in their careers while others, equally talented, remain stagnant? The secret might not be in their IQ but their EQ – Emotional Intelligence.

Your next job may depend on your EQ… and not your IQ.

The difference between average and outstanding? Emotional intelligence.

Check out the short video here.

Afterwards, take this EQ test to learn how to leverage your emotional intelligence type.

Unlock the Secrets Behind Lasting Love!

Ever wondered what makes some relationships thrive while others fall apart? John Gottman, a world-renowned relationship expert, takes you on a journey to decode the mysteries of love.

With decades of research and insights from the “Love Lab,” Gottman reveals the science behind successful relationships. Discover the profound impact of great relationships on health, wealth, and longevity. Learn about the “magic” of love and how it can transform lives. Whether you’re in a relationship or seeking one, this talk offers invaluable insights to strengthen bonds and find true connection.

Watch the TEDX talk here.